tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post7126058033009407956..comments2023-07-29T03:07:45.051-07:00Comments on Ova Achiever: As Soon As I Adopt, I WILL NOT Get Pregnantsharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13310905438413460018noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-73825606584758139512015-09-04T17:57:05.638-07:002015-09-04T17:57:05.638-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.michellegracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14126100106931686347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-77452470085890803722015-09-04T17:56:37.915-07:002015-09-04T17:56:37.915-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.michellegracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14126100106931686347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-42449522594425011412013-10-19T17:52:35.624-07:002013-10-19T17:52:35.624-07:00For me, there were 2 problems with that sentiment....For me, there were 2 problems with that sentiment.<br /><br />1. It seems to assume that becoming a mom via adoption is second-best, a consolation prize. Adoption may have come second for us in chronology, but it turned out to be first for our family-building story in an ordinal sense. What you said.<br /><br />2. It kept me from being in the present moment. Saying that discounted how I felt NOW, what I was doing NOW to form my family.<br /><br />It was great to meet you last week :-)Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-20813148005036881992013-10-14T10:15:20.977-07:002013-10-14T10:15:20.977-07:00We talked quite a bit about PGD, and had planned t...We talked quite a bit about PGD, and had planned to do it, but my embryos basically didn't make it to day 5. So, Dr. Tran, at that point, explained that PGD might or might not give us answers, but it wasn't likely to actually help us get pregnant, especially since we aren't interested in doing a bunch more cycles. So, we decided against going forward with it.sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13310905438413460018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-92037508668350808012013-10-14T10:12:49.707-07:002013-10-14T10:12:49.707-07:00I utterly agree that the "just relax" me...I utterly agree that the "just relax" message is lunacy. I don't think anyone ever tried that one on me over my personal three-year journey, and I am glad, because they would be unconscious.<br />Anyhoo. Did Dr. Tran talk with you about an embryo thaw with PGD? I hope so. PGD was like a sanity gift to me after repeated BFNs. I finally knew why.danacarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17043092243208033961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-61155378934910959732013-10-09T13:13:50.933-07:002013-10-09T13:13:50.933-07:00Found your post from a repost by Magpie Librarian....Found your post from a repost by Magpie Librarian. Everyone I know seems to know someone or be related to someone who adopted and then got pregnant! I'm like "yeah yeah". It's indeed tiresome.exlibriscathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13150691593372882337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-81826329569162417442013-10-09T11:05:11.443-07:002013-10-09T11:05:11.443-07:00I just saw that comment on your post, and I was ir...I just saw that comment on your post, and I was irate for you, too! It's just not ever a helpful thing to tell someone, regardless. <br /><br />Anyhow, I'm excited too. We are attending a few workshops in the next weeks, then we are going into this last Frozen Embryo Transfer. When that doesn't work, we'll be full speed ahead on the adoption thing... sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13310905438413460018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-82989045560205716222013-10-09T04:34:17.235-07:002013-10-09T04:34:17.235-07:00OMG I just had someone to tell me, "Jeez Jo I...OMG I just had someone to tell me, "Jeez Jo I read your blog sometimes and think relax!!" and it made me SO IRATE, I can't believe it. I don't even know why that made me so angry. And it's not even about something remotely as important as your stuff! I can't imagine how that would feel for you. Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084112704041213350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-90573596059177747592013-10-09T03:28:25.979-07:002013-10-09T03:28:25.979-07:00It's so ridiculous that people would think tha...It's so ridiculous that people would think that saying this would be some form of comfort. You're amazingly understanding to somehow empathise with the crazies who think that and say that. <br /><br />You know we love yas. And, by the way, I'm not sure where you are on your thoughts about the whole adoption process, but it's pretty freaking exciting, I reckon, that there is another path to motherhood that is there for you, and that is accessible to you both. I'm a little bit excited about it for you. :) Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084112704041213350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-43235445516526622262013-10-08T21:11:32.783-07:002013-10-08T21:11:32.783-07:00I know it's different, but I used to get just ...I know it's different, but I used to get just relax and you will be able to breastfeed. If I could wouldn't I? <br />I've heard family friend physicians also say the only thing you need to do to get pregnant is relax... what BS!<br />Of course your adopted child will be your child, your baby, your family. Adoption is not second best. I agree with you.<br />Hugs Sharon & Ian.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12415185073004855701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-905214807624035252013-10-08T17:49:10.175-07:002013-10-08T17:49:10.175-07:00I think I get this. I really hate the "just r...I think I get this. I really hate the "just relax" bullshit people say. It's like when people are "trying" and have anxiety from wanting to get pregnant, or are doing proactive planner things to help their chances and people say that if you just "relax" and let it happen that's when it'll happen. As if you should give up trying all together and it'll make a difference. LIES. There's zero scientific evidence to show that even if you OBSESS about getting pregnant you're hurting your chances. Just as there is zero scientific evidence that once you decided to adopt you'll get pregnant... as if the "worrying about being pregnant" was your whole issue. Worrying does not cause infertility (ok maybe intense worrying leading to severe depression which could according to one study I read, but not just general worrying). People just think they know better. But when it's you (an intelligent, highly well-read lady who has spent so much time and energy investigating options and solutions) to have someone tell you that there's a better way you haven't tried (i.e "just relax!") and imply that they know better you really gotta wonder why that person is so dang dumb.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01859390631713793522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3700054424832774619.post-20782186431338626022013-10-08T16:29:08.326-07:002013-10-08T16:29:08.326-07:00This is so well written. I have always thought th...This is so well written. I have always thought that comment was offensive, and you express exactly why.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352202753791486215noreply@blogger.com